chirart:

arcticfritillary:

chirart:

1. both parties are full rounded characters
   
   
2. they each have their own personal motivations, wants, and dreams
   
   
3. they both want to kiss each other’s face
   
   like
   
   a lot
   
   
4. codependency!!! from functional to dysfunctional (as long as it’s sold as dysfunctional and embraces the problems that go with it because that makes it so interesting), physically or emotionally or WHATEVER. I love codependency. I LOVE IT SO MUCH. Not the sort of formless blob where both character A and B literally do not have a personality beyond their relationship, that is boring and dumb, but all the sort of helpless attraction and chemistry that brings people together, that is what I am talking about!! The chemistry that makes it very hard to imagine a life without the other person in it, that the other person is the missing element that doesn’t make your life worth less without them there but worth everything more which is what makes the pain of losing them so acutely awful. Sometimes it brings the most compatible people together and I can’t help but just bask in the feelings they have for each other, and sometimes it brings together people who are so incompatible and sometimes even unhealthy but somehow their lives have gotten entangled with each other beyond understanding. It is something bigger than who they are, but it isn’t “destiny,” it’s a clash or melding of personalities that’s more addictive than any drug life can provide and it’s what makes stories worth telling, over and over, since the dawn of time.

See, simple.

Basically this, except I can ship almost anything with the right catalyst (i.e., good fic, good art, etc.).

BIG IMPORTANT EDIT: I’ve been recently informed that codependency is NOT the above. Here’s the Wikipedia page for it. In light of this, I want to describe what I mean for the above, which I am going to call mutualism (which is a term taken from a different scientific field).

The main part of this sort of mutualism is that the member(s) of the relationship do not need the other(s) to live. Their life is not over without them, they can still go on. However, the other member(s) of the relationship is like fuel to their fire. They don’t strictly require it, like a fire needs oxygen to burn, but their life is better because of their significant other(s). It’s about finding that person (or people) who encourage(s) you, and you encourage them. You’d still be doing the same stuff, but you do it better or faster.

I’m sorry for the misinterpretation of codependency, and given what I know about Chira, I think she would be sorry too.

Woah!!! I had no idea that term even existed, and now I am more educated for it! I suppose it is pretty obvious I was never a psychology student. But yes! I do apologize for the misrepresentation of the terminology, and let this reblog be its correction.

Seconded so hard on the mutualism thing.

Mutualism is actually the single most necessary thing for me to get really into a ship, like to OTP level.

That, and pre-relationship friendship. I can’t express how much I love best friends-turned-lovers pairings, and these two things are probably what make Klaine so attractive to me as an OTP, besides the fact that I adore both characters on their own.

They have their own lives and do their own things. There’s Kurt and Blaine. Kurt loves fashion and diva-ing with his buddies. He loves baking and he loves his father, he loves shopping for clothes and singing showtunes.

Then you have Blaine, who boxes and fences and apparently played polo at some point, maybe still does, if his room is anything to go by. Blaine, who loves nothing more than putting on a show, bowties and music and football.

And together you have KurtandBlaine, who are best friends and can talk about most anything together from Vogue to musicals to life and their problems, who could(and did for sixteen years) live without each other, but who would both be much happier if they didn’t have to. They know each other so well, and are so emotionally close and in-tune, that they’re not just like peanut butter and jelly. They’re like that weird Goobers PB&J stuff, stripes of both together in one jar.

Nobody else on Glee is like that, and it keeps me from feeling too strongly about basically any other pairing. I like couples best when they work as friends and as equals in a relationship.